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How Social Rejection Can Fuel Creativity

 
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Most people have horror stories to relay about high school and middle school, a time when being cool trumped all other priorities.

But some people were true social rejects — with few or no friends and constant bouts with bullies — during these years.

A study at Johns Hopkins Carey Business School found that social rejection can, in the right circumstances, fuel independent thinking and creativity.

While this doesn’t mean that bullying is beneficial and that the hermit lifestyle is an ideal choice, it could indicate that feelings of rejection can fuel the turning inward that is so important for creative pursuits.

Independent Thinking and Rejection

Extroverts are people known for their gregarious personalities and their often obsessive need to belong to a group. These people can suffer immensely when they are rejected.

But people who are more introverted and who tend to value their own independence can benefit from the time alone that social rejection often causes.

In an interview with ScienceDaily, the study’s lead author explained that social rejection can confirm to people what they already believe to be true: they are unique and their independent thinking sets them apart from others.

For those needing that final nudge toward creative pursuits, rejection may provide the nudge.

Rejection and Business

Most people know that social intelligence is a strong predictor of career success. But the study’s authors point out that social rejection should not be an immediate job disqualification.

Especially in creative fields where employers are seeking independent-minded people, an unconventional personality that could lead to social misunderstanding may indicate a willingness to look at the world differently. This unique approach can be highly valuable in career pursuits.

Rejection vs. Bullying

There’s an important distinction to be made between rejection and bullying. People who feel rejected may be introverts who have few friends or may be poorly understood by their peers.

Bullying, by contrast, is an active behavior designed to harm people. The study did not find that bullying is beneficial and should not be construed as evidence that bullying intervention programs are misguided.

Instead, it indicates that people who avoid social interactions or who prefer independent pursuits are not necessarily psychologically damaged and may have novel and meaningful perspectives to offer.

What Parents Can Do

Parents are often concerned about their children’s social rejection, but this study gives hope that rejection does not necessarily equal a life of insecurity and isolation.

While parents should intervene if their children are being bullied, they don’t necessarily need to pressure their children to make friends or associate with a group by whom they feel rejected.

There are several steps parents can take to help their children maximize their sense of independence if they’re being rejected:

• Support children in independent pursuits such as computer programming and art. Rather than pressure shy children about the time these pursuits take away from friends, value the contribution such pursuits make to independent thinking.

• Help your child practice social skills with you and with other family members, even if she’s having trouble making friends.

• Encourage independent thought. If your child feels like she doesn’t fit in with her peers, ask why, and compliment her on the positive traits that separate her from others.

• Talk to children about the potential benefits of social isolation. Point to celebrities who experienced rejection and explain that temporary rejection can be beneficial in the long run.

References:

Don’t get mad, get creative: Social rejection can fuel imaginative thinking, study shows. (2012, August 21). ScienceDaily. Retrieved from
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/08/120821114634.htm

Edited by Jody Smith

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