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International Childfree Day Celebrates Mental Health Benefits

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2) “Never have to worry about being a bad parent”

3) “No competition with other parents to be the best”

4) “Never getting blamed by your children for screwing them up”

5) “Never having to be conflicted about focusing on yourself or your children”

There are also two benefits of choosing not to have children versus giving in to pressure to have children when you don’t want them:

1) “Making choices based on a solid sense of self and your needs is empowering and makes you less reliant on others to make you feel good.”

2) “Avoids relationships based on doing what others want or expect just to maintain that connection.”

Many women make a conscious choice to not have children, and they are happier because of it.

Kelly Meister-Yetter, author of “Crazy Critter Lady,” said in an email that she has never wanted children and has never regretted that decision. She is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and due to her traumatic experiences she still suffers from depression and post-traumatic stress disorder.

“If I had children with my mental health issues, I'm sure I would have been a terrible parent with no patience whatsoever,” she said in an email.

“In addition, it's taken me decades to raise myself; for too many years, I did not possess the necessary characteristics of a good parent,” Meister-Yetter added. “I had no values, and very little self-esteem.”

“I would not have been able to raise a happy, healthy child who would grow up to be a productive member of society,” she said.

Sources:

We’re Not Having a Baby! International Childfree Day, 2014 Edition. Web. July 31, 2014.
http://werenothavingababy.com/childfree/nominate-childfree-man-woman-year

International Childfree Day. Web. July 31, 2014.
http://internationalchildfreeday.com

Childfreedom. The Top 100 Reasons Not to Have Kids (and Remain Childfree). Web. July 31, 2014.
http://childfreedom.blogspot.com/2009/03/top-100-reasons-not-to-have-kids-and.html

National Institute of Mental Health. Postpartum Depression Facts. Web. July 31, 2014.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/postpartum-depression-facts/index.shtml

American Sociological Association.

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