My niece, who is in college, is 20 and is almost 21. She has a longtime boyfriend and they are sexually active.
Here's my question: Why am I uncomfortable when they stay together in our home? I love her, I like him. They are each smart and kind. They also do laundry together, do homework together, watch football together and hang out with family together. And they stay over at each other's place quite often.
I do not think they are too young or irresponsible to have sex (she is absolutely more mature than I was at her age). She often spent the night with us before she had regular boyfriends, so having her over is nothing new. But having him stay with her certainly is!
I'm so happy we have the kind of relationship where she feels free to be herself. And I respect the honesty she displays with him and with us.
Am I overreacting? Am I just slow to realize that she's all grown up now?