cant reach orgasm during sex but i can during oral sex we always have oral sex before penetration sex, after i get an orgasm during oral sex i become dry and it start to be a painful and am sore aftewards .we tried having penetrativ sex first but afterwards am too sore and not sensitive so dont have am orgasm at all .My husband tries very hard and keeps going but it just becomes more painful for me and he is also fraustrated ,i suffer frequently from herpes dont know if they are related. I dont take any medication or birth control pills and am 31 years old.