On a recent flight home from a speaking engagement, I was on a very small plane that had only one flight attendant. He was bored, and you could tell. Everything he said came out in a monotonous string of syllables that all ran together in a monotone. “Pleasemakesurethatyourseatbacksandtraytables
areintheirfulluprightandlockedpositionswewill
beonthegroundshortlythankyouforflyingwithustdoay.”
I wanted to scream out, “BREATHE!”
It would have been funny if it hadn’t been so sad. He probably hated his job and was was just “coasting;” he was there in body but not in spirit. Like most things in life, you get out of it what you put into it: if you want to succeed, you have to work at it. In his case, I would be willing to bet if he put a little more enthusiasm into his voice he would enjoy himself a lot more and do a better job as well. (On the other hand, I wouldn’t have been able to write this article!)
The same is true in managing our stress; you have to work at it. If you are stressed and don’t take positive action, you won’t get any relief. You can’t just sit around and feel sorry for yourself – DO SOMETHING!
In each of my articles I try to present one idea to help you do just that, but it occurred to me that my ideas won’t help you if they are simply read but not applied. Sounds pretty obvious, doesn’t it?
Sometimes the obvious isn’t really obvious until you point out that it’s obvious!
Be proactive and take some positive action to help yourself. Even if you try something and it doesn’t work, you’ll feel empowered simply because you tried.
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