No sex or relationship question is too embarrassing because it's time to ask EmpowHer's sexuality expert, Dr. Marty Klein, anything.
Michelle King Robson:
Dr. Klein, I have got a question from a man who is wondering how he can help his wife and he says, “I am really concerned about my wife. She is not herself. I think she has hormonal imbalances, including her libido. She will not go to the doctor; she refuses, and I love her so much, and I really want to help her. What can I do?”
Dr. Marty Klein:
Probably nothing, and isn’t that really sad? Isn’t that really, really sad? You know, in every couple, people are committed to taking care of each other to some extent or another. So if you notice your partner needs new glasses, you know, you push them to go to the eye doctor. If you see that your partner isn’t taking care of their teeth, you push them to go to the dentist. If you see that your partner has a libido issue or other indications of a hormone problem, you push them to go to the doctor.
If a person refuses to go to the doctor, I don’t know what you are supposed to do. I mean, you can certainly say to somebody, “This is so important, I am willing to put the relationship on the line. Either you pay attention to this or I am going to walk out.” You only get to do that once in a relationship, so you have to be real careful when you do this.
I think really what you are asking is, “How do I get somebody’s attention when I really care about that, and I know that they care about me? How do I get somebody else’s attention when they don’t want to give me their attention?” And that’s exactly what I would say to somebody. I would say, ”Sweetheart, I absolutely need to get your attention about this. Up until now, you have not been willing to give this your attention. I need for you to give this your attention. I need for you to trust me enough that you are willing to do something you don’t want to do.” And if that doesn’t work, I don’t know what you can do.