Through searching for an answer about my sex life I found this site, and thought I would search the depression area for help.
My boyfriend(of 2 yrs) has recently(over the last5 mnths) shown little to no interest in sexy anymore, I feel that I am the man and he is the steriotyped"woman" as I want sex frequently.
We both recently lost our jobs, altho we dont leave until a few weeks,is stress the cause? or depression? He seems to lack motivation sometimes, and will make a list to eat better and go to the gym more but then it never materialises which makes him feel worse, hes irritable and if i mention it he gets defensive and feels hes not good enough etc.
I have suffered from depression since an early age, and self harm used to be on my toplist of controlling thoughts(never suicide just pain to distract) When i found out i was to lose my job I started cutting again, but I am reasonably well controlled in comparison to a year ago.
I'm just starting to get to the end of the line, as to me..having sex makes me feel like we are a couple, instead of mates who have a laugh sometimes and live together, its really getting me down, but if i talk about it...he snaps and anything sex related(even on tv) he finds difficult.
what to do what to do, any advise would be great. hmmph