As a birthday present I received an expensive rabbit vibrator from my boyfriend. I am not sure what to do about it. Usually I am comfortable with this sort of thing, but for some reason I am really angry about receiving this as a gift. Maybe because it isn't the sort of gift you usually get on your birthday, or it wasn't romantic. Also when I first got it I thought to myself that it had to be a gag gift. For some reason it makes me feel uncomfortable, like he is too lazy to have sex with me and he is gave me a replacement. To me this gift doesn't really say I love you. It also seems a strange choice of gift as we have been having some problems in the bedroom, like being out of sync or stressed out due to our jobs. I also wished he would have asked me about it before hand. It seems like an impulsive purchase and that he didn't give it any thought. The vibrator is also much bigger in size than I would have picked for myself. Is it bratty of me to also be angry because when he asked me what I wanted I told him, jewelry or flowers?
I also feel like my fault because about a week before my birthday I went out with a friend and had a couple drinks. She wanted to stop by the sex shop so I went with her. We ended up talking to the owner about the rabbits and he pulled them out o the case for us to look at. I later came home telling my boyfriend all about these expensive vibrators that spun, twisted and lit up saying OMG we have to get one. However I wasn't entirely serious about it. My friend and I we were just being giggly girls and I think the fact that I thought they were so out there and the alcohol is why I told him about them. We are now stuck with it because sex toys can't be returned. The first time I tried to talk to him he got defensive.
I am not sure how to deal with it or tell him that this is not what I wanted.