I am very upset about a doctor visit that we had recently morning. My husband has a family history of colon cancer and I MADE him go for colonoscopy a year ago and they found two polyps. I set up an appointment for him again for this morning and again the doctor found a new polyp which he removed. We have a gastro surgeon in the family who advised us about colonoscopy and who said that if I did not make my husband go for this colonoscopy he would have full blown cancer in 5 years. As you may know I have been very wary of these health issues and have changed my diet and life style completely (organic food, lots of outdoor exercise, looking for a less stressful job). At the beginning my hubby was against my organic vegetarian eating but now he is into it and eats pretty much what I eat.
Today we had an incident at the doctor’s office. As I have been doing a lot of research about colonoscopy and other procedures about preventing colon cancer, I had a long list of questions for the doctor. I also have a tendency to “pound” on people and am very intense in meetings. To cut the very long story short, the doctor got very upset with me and lost patience with me after I sent him lots of emails with questions, ask tons of questions before the procedure (and my husband was trying to stop me from asking questions even thought it was for his own good), and then called his assistant and asked her to tell him to also do a prostate exam when he was already in the middle of colonoscopy. My husband says that I really put the doctor in the corner, that he is very good at what he does and that I was “hammering” him and that I often do this with other people. This may be the truth as when I get focused on something, I really want to get it done very well and thoroughly. My 12 step program sponsor told me that my husband’s health is none of my business. But I know that if I did not make him go for the colonoscopy he world have never gone. He never even heard of this procedure before. He is 50 years old and I think he might have seen a doctor once or twice over 20 years ago. He hates going to doctors and thinks that he can just hand his heath over to the higher power and has no need for any checkups or doctors.
My husband has been very upset with me.