My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble over the last month, starting with an incident when I was out of town and he got drunk and stayed overnight at this girl's house while--someone who he hooked up with before we started dating. He says he only kissed her, but with all those details aside, I believed him and now we're working on getting our relationship back on track.
But it's been constant arguing. I've asked him to stop contacting this girl, mostly because I know she likes him and while we were dating she's been openly pursuing him. Her presence has only been damaging to our relationship--and a constant reminder of how he hurt me with what he did.
The problem now is that I just found out that he's initiating conversations with her online. But the bigger problem is that he used to always tell me when he talked to her, though now he's not telling me at all. That just rings all my warning bells, even though the conversations are mostly "hello, how are you" style. Should I talk to him about these conversations (and have him find out that I've been keeping watch on his online activity... which makes me look bad), or leave things be and see if the conversations become inappropriate?
I really need help dealing with this situation!