We have been married 25 years. The 1st 15 years he was addicted to drugs so I didn't notice the ocpd. The five years after that I was so greatful for the sobriety that the problems seemed small compared to the drug abuse problems. This last five years I have noticed patterns. This last year it is VERY clear we are dealing with OCPD. I feel like I am living in a minefield almost afraid to take a step. This last explosion I made it clear to him I can not take anymore bomb throwing. I also shared with him my belief that he is OCPD. He hasn't researched it but he tended to agree with me. (He knows he has perfectionism tendensies). He says he will do his best to quit bomb throwing. I am wore out - confused - want to help him - want to help me - not sure how to progress - sometimes feel like those bombs put too many holes in me... I beleive in God (Jesus) and the power of prayer. Looking for help - answers - suggestions ........