We have two horses, one of which is very old (30), he is a bit unsteady on his feet. The younger horse runs around and occasionally bumps into him, causing him to fall. This is quite serious for older horses because they have trouble getting to their feet and when they cannot it is the end of the line. You can’t exactly pick up a horse and put it back on its feet (unless, of course, you're Hagrid!).
We eliminated this problem by closing them into their separate paddocks and only letting one out into the turnout at a time. We close them both in when we feed them their dinner at about 6:00 p.m.
I really am getting to my point here -- Before I go to bed I bring them some carrots and a “bedtime snack” and sort of “tuck them in” for the night. I have to go through a gate, walk through the turnout and then another gate in order to reach the barn.
Hang in there -- the first night they were both locked in, I entered the turnout and left the gate open; after all, they were both in their paddocks and couldn’t access the turnout, so they couldn’t get out through an open gate.
Here it comes -- I took a few steps and felt uncomfortable leaving the gate open, even though I didn’t have to close it. I went back and closed it anyway and I felt better. That’s when it hit me (drum roll, please): some of our daily routines are comforting. Maybe they’re not necessary, but they are comforting nonetheless.
When you find yourself stressed, try doing something that feels normal to give yourself a sense that there is still order to the world. Maybe it’s a short walk or reading the morning paper over a cup of coffee. What is it that you can do that will give you this sense of peace and normalcy?
Sometimes a ritual can be comforting as well. For example, you’re in a restaurant and you’ve been to the restroom and washed your hands, yet when you get back to your table you take out the hand sanitizer. Not necessary, but it’s something that you’re used to doing. It just wouldn’t feel right if you didn’t. How can you apply this idea in your life??
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