Sometimes you meet that special someone, sparks fly, and the chemistry is just right. You don't have to think too much, or edit your thoughts or words. It's as if you were made for each other.
At other times you may have found some of this, and some of some other stuff that doesn't feel completely natural. That's all right. None of us is completely compatible with our partners and to shy away from a potentially good relationship just because some of it feels like work is to possibly miss a great opportunity to connect.
You can have great chemistry and still need to work at your relationship. When things start to feel too mechanical you know you are not in the right ball park. But if most of what you share is natural and fairly easy but some of it is working stuff out, that's just fine.
The key to this whole thing is: willingness. As the saying goes, "It Takes Two to Tango," and the Tango is a difficult dance! If only one partner is willing to learn the steps of the dance of love and passion, the dance will not be beautiful. With two partners learning, willing, able and ready to learn the steps, who cares if the Tango is not perfect, it is a work in progress!
Take time to reflect on how willing or unwilling you are to work hard in the areas of your relationship which may be less than magical. If you are willing, that's more important than getting it right.
Aimee Boyle lives, works and writes on the shoreline of CT