An article last weekend in the online version of the Washington Post discusses a phenomenon the author, Ellen McCarthy, describes as “surgical vengeance.” In contrast to the premise of the television show, Bridalplasty, where brides-to-be compete for cosmetic surgery, the fact that divorce motivates many women to seek plastic surgery is at the heart of McCarthy’s article.
But is it accurate to use terms like “vengeance” and “payback” as McCarthy does, to describe these women’s objectives?
In some cases, yes, it’s fair to acknowledge that there’s a measure of revenge involved in the decision-making process. The Washington Post piece, called “Ultimate payback after a breakup? Plastic surgery” highlights the fact that so many women consult plastic surgeons around the time of a marriage breakup that some doctors call it “vengeance plastic surgery.” Indeed, one young East Coast ex-wife interviewed for the article elected for breast augmentation after discovering her husband cheated on her.
Even around the time of a divorce, however, it’s likely that many women choose a cosmetic procedure or two to mark this key milestone in their life and help them prepare for the future in a more positive way. In fact, another woman quoted in the article explained that her reasoning had more to do with the fact that she needed to get back out in the dating scene than anything else.
There's a third possibility as well. According to plastic surgeon Loren Eskenazi, the motivations her patients often express go even deeper than preparing to date again. In her book More than Skin Deep: Exploring the Real Reasons Why Women Go Under the Knife, Dr. Eskenazi wrote that almost every patient she sees is anticipating or going through a profound life change, such as divorce, and seeking surgery to “have the outer body reflect an inner change that was already taking place.” In other words, Eskenazi said, the majority of her patients “use their surgery as an opportunity to heal and grow.”
People going through a divorce and considering cosmetic surgery should pause and consider their goals honestly. Phil Haeck, the President of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, also interviewed for McCarthy’s article, explained that it concerns him that some women make decisions about elective surgery during such a stressful time. Furthermore, he worries about expectations that cosmetic surgery will help a divorced woman find a new partner. That may or may not happen, he noted.
If you reflect a moment on the women interviewed in the article, revenge for a husband’s affair doesn’t appear to be a very good reason for plastic surgery either. Seeing divorce as a growth opportunity and wanting to mark the experience with a physical transformation seems like a much healthier attitude. Perhaps many women are really more like Eskenazi’s patients, who, in her words, feel that surgery “is a essential part of the process of inner transformation, which they have already begun on their own.”
References:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/12/09/AR2010120907337.html
http://books.google.com/books?id=INUmamY2c-IC&printsec=frontcover&dq=%22more+than+skin+deep%22+eskenazi&source=bl&ots=3pQ9_MurJ1&sig=FMujqveVaAbY8Pwj2GBAUGLJ7Zg&hl=en&ei=aDcFTbLfH5SusAPdjpGuDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CBMQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q&f=false