my son and I are estranged,I am 61 ,he is 42,.it started when I divorced his dad when he was 9.his dad was abusive. I took him to councling,he resisted and became angrier ,.his dad rarely visited,sometimes for years.in his early teens he was addicted .ng

Addicted to drugs and alcohol. He became verbally abusive. ,was cruel to our dogs. Had to put him in mental ward for 6mo. He says he will never forgive me.it will often be a year without speaking. I love my son but he is still verbally abusive. I am very depressed over this. I take zoloft.he wants to be together for christmas, its already upsetting me. I feel guilty if I don't but he is so hard to be around.