My husband is a very loving man, and he loves to please me, both in and out of the bed. He really gets turned on by the idea of "controlling" me during sex. He thinks it is a natural instinct for a guy to get turned on by a woman being completely submissive, to the point that she has no control in the situation. Now, I do not think my husband would ever hurt me in any way. However, in the past he has enjoyed watching rape porn, and I am pretty sure that is where he got his bondage fantasies. He has since realized the severity of what rape REALLY means and understands that type of porn is unacceptable. (Should I be concerned that he was able to be aroused by rape scenes? Because it certainly disgusted me!) I fear that his desire to have a visual display of my submission and his control could lead to, if it is not already rooted with dengerous thoughts. What do you ladies think?