Thank you in advance,
I have just started a relationship with a long term friend who I care about very much emotionally and intellectually. I am thrilled about all aspects of our interactions except our sex life. I feel that sex is one of the most enjoyable experiences one can have and as such enjoy being sexual quite often.
In past relationships I feel my needs have always been satisfied. My last relationship was fantastic sexually but lacked in many other areas. This new relationship is wonderful in all areas but sex. I am finding myself always initiating sexual interactions. I am feeling like my new girlfriend isnt enjoying sex - she is fairly inexperienced - I try to be encouraging and do all I can to make her feel loved, secure, and comfortable. I have had sex with many partners in the past - all of whom have seemed satisfied if not thrilled to sleep with me as I was to sleep with them in return.
I used to have sex with my ex maybe 4-5 times a week consistently for a period of 3.5 years. I suspect this is uncommon. I feel like my expectations are now all out of whack.... I am struggling with how to address this.. We can sit down and talk about this... but this relationship is new and I feel strange bringing problems to the table so quickly. I guess the bigger questions is... is it impossible to pair a man who has a very active libido with a woman who seems to have a fairly tepid sex drive? I refuse to be the man who is 50 and hasnt had sex with his wife in 5 months.
Has anyone here had an experience similar to this? I really love this woman but I know that I will not be satisfied with this amount of sexual activity in the long term.
Please advise and thank you,
Man consulting women