There's no time like the present, especially now that the warmer, more sensual weather is upon us, to evaluate and assess where you are in your sexual satisfaction rating scale.
Are you having enough sex? Is it the kind you like? Are you exploring different avenues with your significant other and keeping sparks flying in the bedroom, or are things routine and, if so, is that all right with you?
Taking a moment to reflect on what you need versus what has been happening may open you up to some new ideas and refresh your sense of adventure.
For the closed minded, trips to the fetish store may not be necessary at all. Simply varying your routine naturally, as the weather heats up and bodies of water become more accessible, can turn an otherwise mundane sex life into a trip of a lifetime.
Have you ever combined swimming with sex? If not, it's something to consider. The sensuality of heat from the air and coolness from the water, combined with the slippery sensation of your skin and the weightlessness you experience while afloat can ignite a powerful, primal sensual reaction unrivaled by expensive or fancy acoutrements.
It is no accident that thoughts of beaches and sea, pools and sun make everyone turn their inner eye toward a more sensual experience.
Too often, we equate these luscious environments with our own insecurities and imperfections. We dread taking off our clothing even though it feels so ridiculously wonderful. We avoid our bathing suits because we don't look like movie actresses even though just to feel the water and sun on our skin is something akin to divine.
Here's a tip: Find a secluded bathing area where you can disrobe, safely, in the twilight hours. The semi-darkness will envelope you and protect you, allowing your defenses to drop like a tee shirt to the ground. Sneak in with your honey and no bathing suits and remember what it felt like to be a free spirit, or discover this for the first time. Nude swimming is liberating and romantic, sensual and seductive, and when your bodies touch in the water, I can guarantee you, all the thoughts of those girls in the magazines will just go right down the drain.
We are born of the sea and, like so many sea mammals, long to slide and glide and spin and dive, and not always alone. The later it is in the afternoon, the less likely you are to feel embarrassed or self conscious about disrobing. Finding a natural body of water where you can let your own body be as natural as possible, without incurring the wrath of a security guard, can do wonders for your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and sexual well-being.
Aimee Boyle is a regular contributor to EmpowHER. She lives in CT.
Edited by Shannon Koehle