My fiance and i have been together for 2 and a half years. I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together. He treats my son like he is his since the father is out of the picture. I love him very much but i have very bad trust issues. My ex cheated on me for 8 years and then married her. My fiance just got a promotion and has been working like crazy i mean like 14 hour shifts for the past 2 weeks. when he comes home he gets text messages all night till we go to bed. we haven't even had sex in 2 weeks. we also have been fighting a lot because since there is no sex i start to feel very insecure and feel like there is someone else in his life. He barely takes me out anymore and now he wants me to get a job (after saying he wanted me to be a stay at home mom for kids) so i can be a more independent woman. which i really would love to get a job and get out of this house but it makes me wonder what his reasoning is. why does he want me to be independent all of a sudden? he tells me that when i stop being insecure is when we will have sex again. since we have been fighting all the time he doesn't want to touch me. please help. i feel like everything is my fault and if it is can you please tell me how to fix it?