Hi. I Really need help in figure out why my husband never wants to be intimate with me. We have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning we were intimate a lot. Then he got hurt at work, and put on different medications....and things slowly came to a stop. And is has been that way for 2 years now...even anniversaries, nothing happens.....A year and a half ago, before we were married (we have only been married for 2 months) we split up for a while, and I ended up making a huge mistake. I told my husband about it and he has had a very hard time dealing with it. He says that he doesn't think that has anything to do with way we don't have any sexual contact anymore, but he doesn't know. Whenever I try to ask him why...it's always I don't know...I feel that it is because I have gained weight since we first met...and he no longer finds me attractive....especially in that way...to the point I no longer dress or undress in front of him, so he doesn't have to look at me....I feel ugly and disgusting.....but he swears that's not the reason and gets angry when I tell him I feel that's why. We are both 23...which I feel is way to young to have this problem between us. He is affraid that I am going to sleep with someone else because he don't do anything....and I am not going to do that. I want him....but I don't know how to make him want me back. I cry to myself for what I did to him while we were seperated, and for the fact that he no longer wants me and I don't know what to do about it. He's depressed a lot anymore, but doesn' t know if that's why and I don't know how to help him. Whenever I try to initiate something....it always ends with either just me doing something to him.....or being completely rejected...making me feel even more ugly and unattractive. I don't know what else to do, or where else to turn.....I don't want to lose my husband, I want him to know he can trust me that nothing will happen with anyone else, I don't know how to make him want me again, I've noticed old eatting habits starting up again from when I was anorexic when I was a teen. Please help me......