Both genders are guilty of sex mistakes, according to FoxNews.com. In the article FOXSexpert: The Top 10 Sex Mistakes That Men Make, though, well-known sex experts were sharing ways that men can avoid common sex mistakes with women.
Just because a man is ready for sex doesn’t mean the woman is. This is the single, biggest mistake men make, iVillage sex expert Tracey Cox told NBC News.
They underestimate how long women take to orgasm. Remember foreplay isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.
Thinking foreplay begins in the bedroom. Foreplay is best approached as an all-day affair Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright, sex educator, relationship expert and author, wrote on FoxNews.com.
Don’t assume what pleases one woman works for all women. Every woman responds differently to sensation and every woman's anatomy is a bit different.
What feels amazing to one may do nothing – or even cause discomfort – for another, Tristan Taormino, author of The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation told WebMD.
Don’t ignore the clitoris. Many men think a woman’s orgasmic ability is due to penetration, Fulbright wrote in FoxNews.com. More than 70 percent of women experience clitoral orgasm when it comes to maximum reaction.
WebMD said that the whole body of the clitoris including the glans, is packed with nerves and highly sensitive. Note however that for many women, the glans is actually too sensitive to touch.
Don’t miss the G-spot. Found on the front wall of the vagina, a woman’s G-spot may be more to one side than the other, or a little higher or lower, than is often depicted, said Fulbright. Its size may also vary, from as small as a pea to as large as a quarter wrote FoxNews.com.
Remember her “other” erogenous zones. AskMen.com wrote that it’s easy to forget a woman's body is full of less obvious erogenous zones. Try kissing her collar bone, back, hips and go from there.
Talk about sex. Most couples don't talk to each other about sex.
Often that's because they don't have the words, sex therapist Chris Donaghue told WebMD. If it's hard for your partner to say what she wants sexually, try asking her specific rather than open-ended questions, Taormino said on WebMD.
She’s not a porn star. As seen in porn films, many men expect their lovers to fulfill their every fantasy. Remember porn is fantasy, not reality, wrote FoxNews.com.
Don’t think of sex as a mission. It’s much more than that.
Erection, foreplay, penetration – all are aimed at achieving the main objective: orgasm. It’s a mistake to focus solely on orgasm since sometimes it doesn't happen even for men, said WebMD. When this happens, people can end up feeling bad about sex that was most likely good in other ways.
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Reviewed March 19, 2013
by Michele Blacksberg RN
Edited by Jody Smith