When I was applying to colleges, I didn’t have the grade point average or SAT scores of my scholarly sister, Laura. My high school guidance counselor asked me why I wasn’t applying to more challenging schools, and my only response was that I didn’t have the grades my sister did and I wouldn’t get in. He asked me how I knew if I didn’t apply. This time, I had no response.
What could I say? He was right. I certainly wasn’t going to get in if I didn’t apply, and there was no way I could be any worse off by sending in a submission. I took the chance, expanded my application pool and was accepted at six of the seven schools I applied to. The only downside was eating crow in front of my guidance counselor when the acceptance letters came in.
We can’t be afraid of failure. If we don’t try, we have already failed.
Why not give yourself the chance to succeed? Pick something that scares you a bit, and decide you are going to take the risk to follow through with it today. The only real failure is not trying it at all. As Wayne Gretzky says, “We miss 100 percent of the shots we never take.” Take the shot and take the chance.
Ask yourself WHY you are afraid of failing. Are you worried about looking foolish in front of others? Are you worried about letting others—or even yourself—down? I often have to heed the same advice I give my five-year-old daughter. The only way you will look foolish and the only way you’ll let me down is if you don’t put in any effort. You are right, you MIGHT fail the first few times. And, you might not! Sometimes the only way to find success is to fail a number of times in order to learn, develop and grow. Remember that Steve Jobs was fired from Apple. He came back and changed the world.
When I think of the end of my life, I know I’d be much more disappointed in myself for not taking the risk than I would be for having a number of near misses. I know that regrets will be much harder to swallow than off-shoots.
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As an Olympian, best-seller, inspirational speaker, and Biggest Loser motivational expert, I'm often asked for tips, tools, quotes and activities to help people reach their goals. I like to end all of my blogs with short tools that are driven from actual advice I've shared.
This week's tip:
Also at the end of your life, you likely want to look back and appreciate that the things you did truly mattered. They carried some depth and value or they impacted people in a positive way. Make sure your actions align with the legacy you someday hope to leave behind. Each day you let pass without this objective is another opportunity missed.
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At the Olympic Winter Games in Nagano, Japan, Nikki Stone became America’s first-ever Olympic Champion in the sport of aerial skiing. What made this performance so unbelievable, was the fact that less than two years earlier, a chronic spinal injury prevented her from standing, much less walking or skiing off an aerial jump. Nikki’s achievements have carried far beyond the slopes as she now works as an accomplished motivational speaker for national and international corporations and was a motivational coach for a national Biggest Loser program. Nikki has also recently released the inspirational bestseller When Turtles Fly: Secrets of Successful People Who Know How to Stick Their Necks Out (with contributors Lindsey Vonn, Shaun White, Tommy Hilfiger, and more). For more information, please visit www.WhenTurtlesFly.com and www.NikkiStone.com.
Edited by Jody Smith