In our society where everybody is talking about sex, it is embarrassing to admit that it is of small concern for you. Still, you are not alone. These days young women keep asking the question: “Is it ok not to want have sex?” Let’s try to hunt this question down.
Women love through their brain
We are in the habit of thinking that the problem of low libido is peculiar for women in their forties and men with erectile dysfunction. Actually, the situation is different now. If you are sweet and twenty it doesn’t mean that you should urge for sex at all times and in all places.
According to the study, almost 30% of women experience loss of sexual desire before they are 35. Is it serious? Of course, no. If to look at this problem in the context of physiology, the loss of sexual urge may be caused by medication intakes, such as hormones or contraceptives. If so, then the problem is quite fixable in time. Though, many sexual health specialists and psychologists tend to believe that female sexuality is connected with body by quarter only, whereas three-fourths belong to the brain. Hence, it is possible to crack the problem, though you will need some time and efforts.
Stay organized
Nowadays when a modern miss has a busy schedule, sex is something that should be planned. Doesn’t sound romantically? Treat it as sports. First you will have to make yourself do it, but eventually you will revel in having sex and will be able to do without according-to-the-timetable sexual relationships.
Relax
By nature, women are emotional and very sensitive. That is why we are easily affected and feel richer gamut of emotions, including those triggered by sex. Unfortunately, there is a reverse side of the coin. A trifling problem at work or forthcoming journey turns out to be material for thought at the moment of intimacy. As a result of these meditations the “happy moment” is irretrievably lost. Therefore, it is important to savor the moment and process as a whole without analyzing past events or planning the future. Try yoga. It is said to remove emotional stress, which is often projected on sex.
Be honest
Honesty is a guarantee of long-lasting and happy relationships and consequently good sex. If you are irritated with your boyfriend talking his mouthful of food or with something else, say it. For good or for ill, women can’t separate relations and sex. This is within men’s sphere. So, try to solve the problem as soon as possible, don’t wait until it is too late. This rule concerns couples, not occasional sex.
Be diverse
Humdrum is the first enemy of good sex. The same movements, the same decorations, the same time… Magnificent promises, aren’t they? Your sexual life is screaming for changes. Have a room at the hotel, impress your partner with some new technique or come to your date la grange. Anything at all! Fortunately, there are a lot of sex ideas!
Finally, be decisive!
You can keep deluding yourself that the problem is only in you, when in fact, your partner doesn’t attract you anymore. Maybe it is about time you gave yourself and your boyfriend a chance to build new relations full of joy and sex?
All told, our sexual desire depends on the level of testosterone in our organism. The more sex we have, the more testosterone is produced and vice versa. Everything is simple. So, your sexual life is completely up to you.
About the author:
Patricia is a freelance specialist and a writer in politics and society field. Graduated from ANTIOCH UNIVERSITY in Seattle. She writes for a few companies educational blogs like http://academic-writing.org/blog, one of them, and also has her own blog. Her articles and posts cover a wide range of issues and subjects.