I have been married to an abusive husband for 23 years. I was so young and naive in the beginning. I just wanted his approval so I went along...but now, at 41 and four kids later, I am finally recognizing that this is not healthy and it is just getting worse. He is drinking more often, doesn't come home, doesn't respect me. I don't have friends because he wants full control and when I am on the phone he needs to know with who and why. Above all he is so jealous. I cant do this anymore!