Have you ever wondered why accepting change can be hard? Even when it’s positive?
How just when things start to get good, we suddenly want to hold onto the past. And we hear that voice inside tells us we can’t do it, and we stop dead in our tracks.
Is it that we aren’t open to receiving gifts? Or maybe we’re afraid expand and grow? Or maybe we just aren’t ready? But when will be ever be ready?
In truth we are ready, but something else is holding us back. And that “something else” is us and most likely fear.
When we have two conflicting programs running at the same time they cancel one another out, and sometimes it’s like our old system doesn’t have the capacity to allow the upgrade. So we have to create space or else we’re stuck.
That might sound confusing but if you think of this way, it’s pretty darn clear.
Say you have a computer that’s old. The memory is nearly full, and there is a new operating system you need to download to get a new software program for your business. But you can’t upgrade because there’s not enough space.
So you have to upgrade by letting go of what you no longer need, and delete old files or even get a whole new machine. It can be hard to decide what to throw away, but when it comes time to step up your game, you have no choice if you want to welcome that change in.
Its scary to take that leap from where we’ve been to where we actually are, but if we want to be truly happy and fulfilled we have to be willing to let go of the “old” to make room for the “new”.
I experienced this myself recently and I found myself in tears feeling lost. And then I realized what was happening. I was allowing the old me to bully the new me.
The one who says “you’re not good enough. You don't know what you are doing. You can’t do this” and it was urging me to stay put. That the upgrades aren’t mine for the taking and I don’t deserve them.
But guess what, I do and so do you.
So what can you do when are find yourself at war with your old self and the old programs that no longer serve you? Here are the tools I use on a daily basis to help me stay ahead of the game and always open to win.
Talk it out. Don’t just think about it, sit down with a friend or someone who can help you separate the old from the new. Use it as a time of reflection and introspection. The ability to get to the root can help you move beyond it quickly.
Literally throw things away. Delete files. Clean out closets. Create the space you need for new things to arrive. You deserve new things- so invite them in!
Grab your journal and write yourself a love note. Tell yourself all the amazing things you’ve accomplished and remind yourself why you deserve to accept these new things into your life.
Sit in stillness. It’s easy to avoid these things when we keep moving so force yourself to sit still until you can do it with ease. If you can’t, you’re still in conflict.
5) Reward yourself. When you face a challenge and you face it with truth and courage, do something nice to reward yourself. It will encourage you to do it more in the future and reinforce the new powerful you.
Katie Kozlowski is the coolest life coach, healer and intuitive there is. Her mission is to make change easy and fun and to do it all with a dose of love. Check her out at www.playwithkatiek.com/playfultransformationkit