I am 18 and my boyfriend is 26 and we hardly ever have sex anymore. We have been together for 9 months however the past 4 have been very lacklustre in the bedroom department. I have spoken to him and he opened up and said he simply has no drive nor desire to be intimate with me, or touch me or even get naked with me and simply feel each other. He has a good job that he loves, exercises regularly and is happy (difficult to get him to truly open up but I believe he isn't depressed or anything along those lines). We have a healthy relationship and work through problems like normal relationships. I constantly try and surprise him with sexual favours, outfits, new ideas, different positions etc. but nothing gets him truly excited or in the mood anymore. sex used to be wonderful but it's been ages since he's touched me and had sex with me like he thinks my body is the best thing ever.
A few things about my boyf that might help:
- he says he watches porn one to max two times a week and does finish
- I've recently (last two-ish months) had to stop taking bc because it messes with my hormones horribly therefore he hasn't been able to finish inside of me. This he claims was his favourite thing and now that he can't, it's a turn off and he can't enjoy sex. So I've offered him ample anal sex and to finish there but he still isn't interested.
- he cannot finish when wearing a Condom
- I have noticed that he doesn't stay erect for as long anymore
Anyways, hoping someone can shed some light on what to do from my perspective and also for me, how to handle the rejected feeling from it all :( I feel defeated and unsatisifed and unloved to an extent. At the moment I'm simply being super understanding and supportive toward him and if he says he doesn't want sex, I leave it there and we just cuddle.
Thanks xx