Hi I am 24 years old lady and my partner is 40 years old. We've been dating for almost 21 months and he is my second boyfriend to be sexual active with and with my first boyfriend we had sex twice and I lost interest in him. When I dated my current boyfriend it was fireworks all the way and that's when I started to enjoy sex and he always brought the best in bed, However since I got retrenched from my job(9months) and moved back home which is 3 hours from where he lives. We now verbally fight more often and we always make plans to visit each other but he comes with excuses a day before we suppose to see each other which is mostly the root of the conflict. I know he is a business man and is always busy since he is starting a new business venture but somehow I feel like if he really loves me he would make time. Over the last 3 month I stopped having a desire to have sex at all and he's been making surprise visits but I no longer heat up for him as I used to. He does all the tactics I love in bed but its like my brain has been disconnected from my body because I don't get aroused but I sometimes allow him to have a cookie but its too painful.
The second problem is that ever since I became sexual active, I only had one orgasm which was spontaneous and I had a fever that day and my body was so hot and the orgasm occurred spontaneously. Is that normal?!