Sometimes you focus on those small annoying things your husband does and feel that they drive you crazy. He doesn’t want to help you around the house or refuses to visit your parents, and you become angry or upset. He asks you, “What’s the matter?” But you are not in the mood to discuss things because you are ready to explode. Whatever the issue, talking about it as soon as possible is important for your healthy marriage and your inner harmony. Here is how you can still love your husband when he drives you crazy.
Keep calm and act the best
If you are used to give the best behavior to other people and leave the worst one to your husband, try to change things. Be strong! Don’t allow your routine irritations to ruin the way you interact with him. Try to treat him kindly and speak kindly to him no matter what. Show that you admire and appreciate him all the time.
Show your respect
Indeed, all men need to know that their women respect them. Your husband should be completely sure that you do respect him. Don’t try to make any assumptions about his irritating behavior, instead discuss your problems with him. Allow him to have enough emotional space to resolve conflicts. Pay attention to your word choices, tone, and body language during a conversation. Make sure that they are respectful.
Forget about the Prince Charming
Get rid of the idea that your husband must be a prince who comes to the rescue when you have troubles. He is your companion, but he is not all-mighty, so let go of your illusions and idealistic expectations. Release your man from the pressure of impossible expectations and allow him to be what he is. I guarantee that you will love him even more!
Remember about the gender differences
Do not expect that your husband will relate to you as your lady friend would. Men have a different way of communication because they focus on facts more than on feelings and solve problems instead of emphasizing. Do not just seek to be loved, love your husband and try to understand him instead of forcing him to understand you. That will help you to become a stronger person. Not only express your feelings but also let your husband demonstrate his views every time he wants to.
Be fair when fighting
Conflicts are inevitable in every healthy relationship. It’s okay to disagree with him, but do it with honor and wisdom. Get real with each other and be honest about what are the reasons for the conflicts and concerns. Do your best to express your feelings appropriately, without screaming at each other, shooting your mouths and being in a miff afterwards. Don’t let anger control you, keep calm and try to find agreeable solutions to problems. Again, show respect and be ready to let some things go if it is worth your peaceful relationship.
About the author: Liz Taylor is a blogger and academic writer. She attended University of Communication and Information Sciences in Alabama and has a degree in journalism. Her career began with newspaper articles, and now she supports students with their college papers.