Well, i have been with my boyfriend for about 4.5 years now. Almost all of which we have worked the same exact schedule at the same job and lived together. He is my best friend and we get along wonderfly. The one thing we do fight about is sex. Im 24 and he is 34. We have sex about once a month or less, and its almost only ever when i initiate it. I try to talk about it, and he either doesnt want to talk about it, or somehow makes me feel bad. And then when we do it almost makes me feel like its a chore for him, like he doesnt enjoy it. He assures me that its not me. He tells me all the time i am the sexiest woman he has ever met. And that i am the best thing that has ever happened to him. This has been going on for years now, and i feel like lur relationship is perfect in every other way, but this issue is single handedly ruining our relationship. It may sound shallow and sex isnt everything... But its important to me