Argh!
I just had to let that out. My husband and I have been fighting...more like nit-picking and arguing...over everything. We are under a lot of stress (just moved cross-country), and it seems as everything we do gets under the other's skin. We're actually fighting about HOW we're fighting!
I'm wondering how you fight with your significant other. We talk about so many other topics, and even in "relationships department" we discuss some personal aspects, but not how we actually fight with each other.
There are so many sites that have "fair fighting rules", and my husband and I both know them. Practicing them is another thing, and I've realized you can't "teach" (inform) the other person, or they get upset (that's how we started bickering about HOW we are fighting, instead of the issue itself, which could have lasted all of 5 minutes).
I really could use some tips here, because it's frustrating (not a deal breaker or anything), time-consuming and emotionally draining. We're not taught this stuff in any formal way. How do you and your significant other fight or argue? (and, I'm talking the non-abusive fighting.). I think fighting is supposed to be productive, right?
If anyone has information about WHERE (physically) to go to learn this stuff, that would be perfect--that's what I'm really looking for! We're not to counseling-stage; I would really like to take a couples class or day retreat or something that would benefit our communication, and fighting, styles. Hubby would be open to going as well...he's equally frustrated and exhausted.
argh!