Best Responses From Men: Why Won't He Have Sex With Me?

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ive been in a good loving relationship for 8 years apart from the sex.i live him but i dont feel he wants me in that way?when i ask he says im nagging him but its been 3 months since last sex and every time we do i have to get on top then manualy finish.im so down about it but he just says he loves me and that should matter?i long for him to make love to me but it never happens.i no hes not aving an affair as we are tgetha all time.we work tgetha.he just sez if youre not happy finish it?

Wow I'm am 29 year old woman going through this, and man does it suck. I have a great guy but no sex, in return I'm a total bitch. NO SEX CAN make any one get ugly. My boyfriend of 6 years is 42 we have a child together. I don't want to leave him, or cheat on him. I'm tierd of masterbating, I've brought it up but he said if I want it to get on top of it. I It makes me feel like crap, is there successful relationships that people don't have sex in?..

I feel the exact same I wish he could see how us not having sex enough has my self esteem in tatters. I feel unattractive, unloved, lonely. I just dont know what to do anymore. Except I feel a lot better knowing that im not alone. See when we 1st met He was the 1st guy That Isaid No too. and Im prob the 1st girl that he hasnt bone on the 1st day. Im usually used too the fact I dont live with a guy an all they want is sex when they call me. Anyways after a few months he still kept talking to me were to the point i moved in an he is the 1st guys tht I actually lived with since 18 im 20 now. Crazy huh? too me yea. But anyways he will or maybe im just parinoid but knowing him when he goes to other girls they usually well u KNOW an its mostly by the girls that will or has bone him the 1st day and yes he knew a lot of them before me. but he would also tell me its more than just sex. its bigger than that and most of the stuff written above. WE are Not Married No kids hes 24 im 20 and Yes ive an im the only girl that met his Whole fam and went to 2 of thier weddings and he invited me around the time we just started talking an i just moved in but still even tho i messed up a Lot an he still has me around and trys to get me not to leave. somtimes he does an i come back but most of the time he wont let me leave and any other girl he well i cant really talk on that because idk. But shuld i worry because he did also say an been saying it like it says above "I wanna earn u not just get you" (like deserve me and sex) i guess an all the other things that says above he tells me

I wish he could see how us not having sex enough has my self esteem in tatters. I feel unattractive, unloved, lonely. I just dont know what to do anymore. We are in counselling and are just going to start to talk about intimacy which I think is going to be useful but very difficult.

I'm so sexually frustrated, I'm going out tonight with the girls and I hate it when people who don't know me come on to me. It makes me feel the way I should with my husband - attractice, desired and wanted. Don't get me wrong it doesn't make me feel loved as they don't know me at all. It's such a self esteem booster though and I find myself wanting to cheat on my husband coz I want to feel attractive and desired. Why do other people make me feel like this but my husband doesn't. Instead I just go home pissed and miserable and alone as usual. He won't ever be intitmate with me when I've got done up and gone out. It all makes me feel so undesired. I'm so miserable. We fight a lot about sex (the lack of it). He just tells me he's too tired etc. I just don't get why he wont try it on in the middle of the day if that's the issue. We don't have any hobbies and rarely do things together at weekends. He is just happy watching the telly. So there's at least a day a week he could approach me during the day when he's got more energy!! He doesn't get that if we went and did things together I could connect with him emotionally doing that and that sex might not be as big an issue. As it stands I only ever feel emotonally connected to him when we have intercourse this makes me crave intercourse. We have sex about 2-3 times a month and have been married less than three months. I'm seriously worried we'll get divorced. I can't put up with this lack of sex for the rest of my life. Maybe I shouldn't have married him and I did have doubts before the wedding but we did make a bit of progress in terms of the rest of our relationship. I guess I dared to hope that things would get better.

This has been an issue for me in my last two relationships. In the beginning, there were NO articles about this ANYWHERE, and even still, I have no definitive answer. One similarity was that they both had kids who they were not communicating with in any way, and I would tell them that I had a problem with that. I think it was just the kick in the gut of our relationship that was fatal to our sex life. I kept trying to fix that one thing and some other things. I know you should never try to "fix" anybody, but some people take a little longer to get to know. In one relationship, he appreciated my helping him work through his anger issues, but we still never had sex, and his not working through the anger issues and other things with both of us killed that one. I looked at it as "growing together", and yeah, it was fixing. It's dumb. I didn't know about their kids and the anger issues 'til after I already moved in with them. By then, leaving seemed more complicated than staying, and I was already invested in the relationship. I just wish I knew them better sooner, like before I moved in, at least.

I think that this was very helpful. The conclusion always seems to be jumped to that he is either cheating, the chick has become unnatractive, or he dosen't want her anymore when in actuality men are not made of anything different than women are. The only difference is that society teaches and expects a man to keep his feelings to himself where as a woman is taught and expected to be open with hers.