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8 Tips for Using Your Vibrator the First Time

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Again, spend time locating your clitoris, tracing the steps your fingers made earlier and noting the differences and similarities in sensations triggered by a toy verses your skin.

5. Work towards clitoral orgasm.
If you are comfortable resting here (which I certainly endorse) and continuing external exploration of your erogenous zones, this step could be your last. Experiment with changing the setting/speed of your toy while applying varying pressures to your clitoris and allowing arousal to build. Remember to relax, breathe and relish in the sensations and power of your body.

6. Introduce internal vibrations.
Otherwise, you can allow the vibrator to slip inside your vagina, simulating sexual intercourse (but with a buzz). Return to your vibrator’s lowest setting and insert the tip into your vagina slowly, never pushing so far that you feel uncomfortable or lose your grip on the toy. Experiment by moving the vibrator in and out, locate your G-spot, and don’t forget about your clitoris in the meanwhile! Take the time you need to stimulate all of your erogenous zones, build arousal and test what feels best to you. (See previous article on health benefits of masturbation if you need convincing that this activity is worth your time and effort.)

With a Partner:
(Note: Before introducing a toy into your shared sex life, make sure you are both at ease with the option. Connection, consent and comfort of each partner is crucial to a sexy time.)

7. Think foreplay
Just as you need to experiment with the different settings and features of your vibrator on your own, your partner will want/need to do the same. Allow him/her to test out the different settings, on a less sensitive body part before jumping straight to your sexual organs. Once you are both familiar with the different sensations your toy can create, urge him/her to slowly and carefully explore more erogenous zones. This is a fantastic exercise in communication, as you will need to let your partner know what feels good/better/best. Treat this initial use as an adventure! Remember that practice makes perfect.

8. During penetration.

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Hannah you did a awesome job explaining how to use a vibrator. There are a lot of women who can benefit from this information. I also write articles about sex, dating and relationship at http://pinkintimacy.com Thanks for the knowledgeable information.

April 12, 2013 - 2:17pm

If you have a sensitive clit, do NOT put a strong vibrator directly on it. Unfortunately, I used a a strong vibrator on my favorite super-sensitive spot. I had an abrupt strong orgasm after a few seconds before I even had a chance to get excited, but I think the vibrator ripped a surface nerve because that spot -- which had been a favorite for years -- became numb and that delicious sensitivity never returned. I can barely feel anything there ever since that day. Very sad.

September 3, 2012 - 4:40pm
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Anonymous (reply to jbid)

That is sad news
I am feeling sad for you
And am thinking how coffee cups need to have a sign on them saying 'This contains hot coffee'
How do you feel about not being adequately warned before use that you could be harmed in some way?
Better read the instructions first before you see a lawyer. But the loss of sexual pleasure is a major disaster for a healthy person
Mike

June 10, 2018 - 8:21am
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Anonymous

Hi, im a first time vibrator user aswell :) thank you for the tips it fely really great. My ass almost bursted open, and yeah, im a man <3

September 3, 2012 - 11:00am
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Anonymous

so sarah was like how do you use a vibrator and i was like google it so then we did and we found this page and read it we think we're throwing out now but before we do sarah had a geat time last night her vaginal fluids came out she had it on high speed i myself decided to try it out (i am a male) and it made my night with sarah

July 4, 2012 - 10:50am
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Anonymous

Good instruction. Very useful step by step. This site covers additional vibrator instructions and new vibrators recently available: http://sexuality-news.blogspot.com/

March 26, 2012 - 9:21am

Loved your article. I would like to share my experience since I am a first-time vibrator user as of 6 months ago. My boyfriend, "as a joke", bought me a Vibrator and I was reluctant to use it until he insisted on using it with me. All I can say is WOW!! The Vibrator is a little expensive but it is well worth it!
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November 30, 2010 - 5:25pm
HERWriter (reply to sallyroth)

Thanks very much for sharing, sallyroth!

I am so glad your shared vibrator experience was a good one! I hope now you have been able to explore the excitement of solo-vibrator use as well as partner play. Getting over the initial anxiety of using a new toy is the hardest part, but I'm sure you'll agree that once you make the leap, you don't look back!

Hannah

December 4, 2010 - 3:57am
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