Facebook Pixel

Map to Your Orgasm - Don't Cling to the Clit!

By HERWriter
 
Rate This

Many people believe that the clitoris is the most important part of a woman’s sexual organs and the most instrumental in reaching orgasm. After our exploration so far, we know this is incorrect - there is no such thing as one important body part or magic button. Instead, female sexual pleasure is a full-body experience. While past sexual experience and countless magazine articles imply that jumping straight to clitoral stimulation is the best way to coax an orgasm, our own journey promises a slower, more holistic route will result in the best climax for a woman.

Of course, we must pay the clitoris the respect it deserves! The true proportions of this seemingly small protrusion are not widely appreciated, and misinformation or ignorance of the female anatomy are large barriers to accessing an orgasm. The visible piece of the clitoris is a pea-shaped nub that is located near the top intersection of your labia minora (the smaller flaps of skin that make up your vulva). But don’t be deceived – this nub is only the tip of an iceberg. The clitoris has legs that extend under the skin on either side of the vagina, sometimes reaching up to seven inches long! Thus, stimulation of the clitoris, though generally concentrated on the pea-shaped button near the top of your vulva, can be attained through contact with your inner and outer labia as well. This is an important anatomical hint to consider in your quest for climax.

Like a penis, your clitoris swells with blood when stimulated, causing an erection. Because it is packed with over 8000 nerve endings, the clitoris is called the most erogenous zone of the female body. While we can’t deny that touch – whether with a finger, mouth, other sexual organ or anything else – feels great, we also know that sexual arousal stems from a variety of body parts and mentalities. So explore the extensive landscape of the clitoris, learning the best way to fully engage its long-legged reach and high concentration of nerve endings, but don’t think of it as an end-all-be-all location on the orgasm map.

Furthermore, don’t expect that once located, one type of stroke will result in an easy orgasm. Communication with your partner and variation of stimulation methods are essential to advancing towards the final destination. Encourage your partner to experiment with different textures, rhythms, speeds, pressures and temperatures to keep you guessing and increase your pleasure.

Its possible that this stopover will bring you to your climax: a clitoral orgasm - the only type of orgasm most women will ever experience. But I recommend holding on, if possible, because there is one more stop on the map that you might regret foregoing… stay tuned!

Add a CommentComments

There are no comments yet. Be the first one and get the conversation started!

Image CAPTCHA
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy

We value and respect our HERWriters' experiences, but everyone is different. Many of our writers are speaking from personal experience, and what's worked for them may not work for you. Their articles are not a substitute for medical advice, although we hope you can gain knowledge from their insight.

Sexual Health

Get Email Updates

Resource Centers

Related Checklists

Sexual Health Guide

HERWriter Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.

ASK

Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!