Don't waste that precious time with your partner or family by rehearsing some unpleasant moment or sweating over a problem from work. Make that free time count for all it's worth.
Is your mood hard to decipher for those around you? Your family members may wonder if they've done something wrong, when really they've done nothing. You just haven't fully come home yet.
Are you coming in the door freaked out about something from your job? Are you leaking anger that you've tried to suppress? You are not the only one being affected by your work stress. Talk to the people you love.
5) Cooperate, don't compete.
Are you used to an independent kind of role at work and find it hard to switch to something a little more family-friendly? Is it hard to admit vulnerability, to accept honesty that might feel like criticism, to work cooperatively with the people at home rather than be in competition?
You're a team. Enjoy the pleasures of all being on the same side.
6) Your off-hours are as important as your work hours.
Do you think of the work world as "real life" and home as the place to tune out and detach till you go back again? Do you apply yourself full-force when you're at work? Do you believe that what you do there matters?
Now apply that same passion and drive at home. Don't drop on the couch and zone out. Go for a drive with the family. Take your partner out for dinner. Take the crew for ice cream.
Is going out a little more than you're up to? Stay on your couch but ask about everyone's day. Engage when your child describes what happened at school. Listen to your partner's thoughts. Or better yet, make room on the couch for your partner, and relive some of the earlier evenings that brought you two together in the first place.
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