I don't ever want children, and my fiance has no problem with this - the issue is how do I prevent getting pregnant!
I've read up on contraception and am appalled at the "effectiveness" of various methods... the BEST options only give a 99% effectiveness, at most. But what does that mean? One or two places have explained this as a percentage of people who will not get pregnant, if using the contraception correctly, IN A YEAR.
I assume, I hope wrongly, that this means that if I use one form of contraception for the decades of my remaining fertility... that my chances of getting pregnant (1% a year) will end up as a 20%+ over my lifetime.
My fiance and I have discussed it. And discussed it. But I am a VERY paranoid person, and merely getting a little intimate (I'm still a virgin) turns me off because of the chance of getting pregnant. If I don't find a solution it will ruin my as-yet-not-formed sex life.
He was originally very opposed to sterilization, because I am still young and "might change my mind". Which I agree is probably wise.
After discussing it a LOT, he has turned around, and even offered that maybe he SHOULD get sterilized - but it is me who is so dramatically opposed to getting pregnant, and I don't think it's my place to have him be the one to go through it, even though it is cheaper and easier for the guy. If we weren't to last (not that I think we won't, it's just a possibility) who knows whether he'd end up wanting kids again. And as he originally suggested, there is also the chance I will regret such a permanent choice.
So yeah, uh.. help?!