My boyfriend and I have tried different angles, lube (lots of lube), slow entry, fast entry and nothing seems to work, I still get tears, expecially where the labia meet the perineum. This hurts a lot and takes awhile to heal which puts a stop to the sex life. I am now scared when we have sex because I know the pain it is going to cause. My boyfriend's penis is larger than average and I am quite small - he has commented on how 'tight' I feel. What should I do so I can enjoy sex again?