I am 32 with 2 small boys, 5 and 14 mos. I have been with my married for 8 yrs and we have been together for over 16 yrs. We have been having some problems for the past year or so because of some text messages I found in his phone. That happened when I was 7 mos pregnant. I thought we were working through stuff. He begged me not to leave him and to fight for our marriage so I didn't leave and I fought. About 6 months ago he started having issues at work. I noticed that is was starting to affect home as well. The last 2 times we tried to have sex which was about 6 months ago he could not keep an erection. So of course I began to think that something might be going on and began checking his phone and asking questions everytime he left the house. Well he has told me know that because of all that he felt like I wasn't trying to fix things and that he just basically shut down and was done. We have been basically living like roommates the last 6 months no intimacy very little alone time or affection. He is still sleeping in my bed though. Anyway, today he told me that he just really felt like he wasn't here emotionally or physically and just didn't think that there was anything left as far a feelings for me. But that he would always care for me and love me. I asked if he wanted a divorce and he was like well i guess we need to think about it but then would say I haven't really made up my mind yet. I don't know what to do. I am in counseling. Trying to change and make things better. I know I haven't been perfect, but I never thought that we would be going through this.