As women go through hormonal fluctuations they often end up with their monthly "friend" more frequently or with more irregularity than they would prefer. For women taking oral birth control, this is sometimes not an issue, as birth control pills can regulate a woman's cycle to the degree that she can stop taking them at the designated time and "voila!" her period is there instantly, over in five days, six tops.
But what happens to your sex life when you're struggling with having your menses more than you would like? It's difficult in so many ways.
* You can't plan hot getaways because while you may be calculating the 21st of the month as the start of your next period, it will decide to show up on the 11th.
* You can't assume you're going to get intimate when you want or as often as you'd like because you may be caught off guard.
Many people are satisfied to work through this "period" (pun intended) and are creative and not put off at all by the monthly, or bi-monthly visitor. But women are as different as the fingerprints they bear and one woman's fun creative adventure is another woman's nightmare - some women simply don't want to play the love game during that time.
One of the biggest hurdles is just learning to go with the flow. (I know, I know, I'm sorry...)
If your partner is open to trying new things, it can be a perfect opportunity for the two of you to do things you've never done before (use your imagination) or simultaneously, it can open up the possibility of you getting more, much needed, time for yourself to rest or pursue other hobbies. Either way, reducing the stress you may feel around this issue will be vastly helpful and will ease your way through it.
Please be advised that making sure your irregularities are within normal range is very important. If you suspect that you are experiencing changes in your cycle that are not okay, see your health care provider and explain every symptom you are having.
Aimee Boyle lives in CT with a dog, a cat, a boy and another boy, a man and a lot of tropical fish.