Unfortunatley this will be a bit of the same story of other posts but I want to learn more about how I am dealing with the issue and if there are any better suggestions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 10 months and have been living together for the last 7 months. Up until we moved in together we had sex ever day and he was very into pleasing me. Our only issue at that time is that I initiated it more then he did. Since we moved in together our sex life decreased to 3 times a week at most and once every week and a half at the least. I know this isn't as bad as others but I want to fix my situation before it gets there. I can say that I took this hard and possibly dealt with it badly. I would get upset on the third or forth day that we didn't have sex. We wouldn't fight about it at that time but I would give him attitude about other things. I have since been able to get over that and now if we have a fight about anything it leads back to sex. About a month ago almost we had a fight and he brought it up that all my problems stem from our sex life. He also said that he feels pressured to have sex with me so I will be happy. So I decided to not start anything and see how it went. We had sex once a week since then. He has asked me to start stuff but I haven't been because I was trying to see how much he wanted it. He said that he wanted sex more but purposely didn't start it because I was doing the same thing. I have said that I don't want him to just have sex with me to make me happy and if he feels like he is being pressured then how am I suppose to know if he actually wants to have sex when I am starting it? The other problem is that he has seemed to lost his interst in my needs. I still get off sometimes but he now has the tendency to not put any effort into foreplay and will just get up and leave after about a minute when we are done. I have said something to him about this and he says that I should tell him if I want more....why can't he just want to do it? I don't know what to do now. I think that if I go back to trying to start it like before it will end up the same way...me starting it more then him and then getting frustrated again.
This is a weird question to add to this but what if I had a vibrator for the middle times of him not wanting it as much?