My husband and I dated for several years.. we were team drivers for a trucking company and we had alot of sex. i got out of the truck and got a job at the hospital and he continued to drive.. he is gone for 4 - 6 weeks at a time and when he comes home sometimes we do not have sex during his home time.. the sex stopped after we got married.. I had already gotten out of the truck but i have done everything like sending him naked pics and i know he is not cheating cause his paychecks would show any type of down time and i pay the bills so i have control of all our bills and paychecks.... when we do have sex everything works cause I was maybe concerned with ED... there is a big age difference i am 33 and he is 47. i have discussed this with him and he said that he is fine and everything is good. He makes the excuses that we just dont have time when he comes home and this is why we do not have sex.. last year during 12 month period we may have had sex 5 times. I feel like this is not healthy for our relationship.. If it is something medical then I would be more understanding. Since the few times we have had sex he has had working equipment I just dont understand and curious if other couples go through this.. Its not really something I want to ask my co-workers... Outside the house when we are social with our friends he is very loving and holds my hand and smacks me on the butt and stuff so no one would ever think we were having problems in the bedroom... I almost feel like i am living a lie... outside we are a couple.. inside we are just roomamates.. please help