we don't live together and we have been together for almost five years, we fight over his drinking and he tells me that he can quit on his own and his drinking started at 16, he's been emotional, verbal and physical abusive through our relationship. when ever i bring up the subject of sex , he changes the subject and he expects me to initiate and when i do he turns me down. i only see him on weekends, because he works and i'm not.