my husband seems to be happy around his friends and coworkers and other people but when it comes to him being around me and our children he acts unhappy he doesn't say please and thank you when we do stuff for him and he always has a mad look on his face when I try to talk to him about it he says I'm just looking for an easy way out and I don't want to be with him is it emotional abuse I'm not sure we have been together for 11 years and married for 9 and we have two children together he tells me I am over 18 I can do what I want he doesn't want to do any kind of marriage counseling and everytime that I try to talk to him when I feel like something's going on with him being in a bad mood or angry he just tells me he's not going to argue with me and says I just want to fight with them all the time when I'm trying to explain to him how I feel and try to get things out in the open to figure things out and he doesn't want to cooperate with me can you give me any advice or anything at all I have even asked him to say please and thank you when we do stuff and he says that he's not going to bow down to me and I don't ask him to bow down to me as simply ask for respect