It might sound weird that I am still virgin in my 27. I am a single woman and I am in a relationship now. I was raised in a culture where getting pregnant outside of marriage is a big taboo. This social stigma makes me afraid too much when it comes to sex. I always think that sex will only makes me pregnant and suffering, therefore I avoid it.. Some people say that women must be virgin until wedding day. My problem is that I am in a relationship with somebody who was raised in total opposite culture where sex is not a big deal, where sex is not supposed to be done only within a marriage. He is still waiting for me until I am ready. It's already 1 year relationship and I still cannot overcome my fear. Everytime we try to make love, I always ignore him to intercourse. We only kiss & hug by far. Deep down my heart, I am very afraid of pain of first sex. Some people say that first sex is painful and stressfull. This information only makes my fear becomes deep and deeper. What should I do ??? Is it true that first sex is painful and how to overcome this fear ??? I already knew about some contraceptives, so there is no more big worry about getting pregnant. But still I cannot do this even I already use contraceptives. I always think that first sex is painful and I don't know what to do... I am hopeless