Hi, my partner is not satisfied with my body. He has told me he needs pornography because he likes "those" kind of bodies as if my body was not one of them. I am a sex positive person, so intellectualize porn as normal, but I feel awful that he doesn't get excited about me this way. Does having children ruin your sex life forever? I used to have multiple partners without getting committed to one. Now I am in a monogamous relationship with the one I love and he doesn't love my body and has said in his journal that he will never be satisfied with me. ( I know I should not have read his journal). I think I am pretty. I am trapped unless I leave the only person I have ever really loved. Maybe lust is different than love and you can only have one or the other. Maybe lust is for people who don't have babies or breastfeed. I am sure this is a common issue. My breast sag from breastfeeding and my belly...He doesn't look at my body or get turned on by me. I would be happy to enjoy the porn with him if I felt sexy and attractive and if it was supplemental, but how can I compete with hundreds of anarexic young women with bouncy breasts?