Coping with secondary infertility can be difficult. You want another child but also feel that you should be grateful for the one you have.
Your secondary infertility could have been caused by the C section you had on your first child, assuming you had a C section :-). My C section when having my now 5 year old was an emergency event after hours of labour. Afterwards I got an infection which was all I needed having a new baby to look after and trying to recover.
But nobody warned me that you could get scar tissue which would stop you getting pregnant again. The good news is that this scar tissue can be removed, in a lot of cases. The bad news is that you need to convince your Dr to check to see if that may be the problem.
You may feel a little inadequate after all you got pregnant before so why not now? Coping with secondary infertility can put pressure on any relationship just at a time when you need each other for support. You are less likely to get sympathy from others who may feel that you should be happy to have a healthy child.
The causes of secondary infertility are often unknown but keep pushing your doctor until he/she gives you all the tests you can possibly think of.
But the best method of coping with secondary infertility it to try and find ways of beating it. I did it, Michelle did it and countless other women have done it so you might just be next.........
Your body obviously goes through a lot of changes when you have your first baby. And some areas can become a little ahem loose!
Now you girls will know what I am talking about but the men may want to go elsewhere! Your doctor/nurse or midwife probably mentioned the exercises to you following the birth of your child. Mine did and I ignored her until a fit of laughing caused a reaction I wasn’t expecting or prepared for (I will spare you the details!).
Girls you need to start doing those kegal exercises - the more the better. And no excuses, you can do these anywhere and at any time and nobody will know any different. So whenever you think of them, practice a couple.
Our bodies are wonderful things and capable of so much. When we orgasm (now please dont ask me what that is!), the purpose of the orgasm isnt just to release feel good hormones but also to help the sperm on their way to meet the egg. The orgasm creates a suction effect and "hoovers" the sperm upwards and onwards.
But the sad fact is that half the time (if we are lucky!) we dont orgasm so our body isnt working as efficiently as it could do in our goal to get pregnant. Add stress and anxiety into the equation and you will be lucky to have an orgasm at all.
But if you do a couple of kegal exercises, it should have the same affect (on the sperm not you!)- anything that you can do to help get pregnant is worth a try, right?
Did you have a C section on your first pregnancy? If so you may have some scar tissue which is preventing you getting pregnant. The risk of this happening is slightly higher if the C Section was done in later stages of labour as opposed to an elective C section.
You may have had an undiagnosed fertility issue yet you still got pregnant! Most people assume that as they got pregnant already, there is no problem with their reproductive system. But if you have been trying to get pregnant again and nothing is happening it is worth getting your hormone levels checked out.
Your child may be the reason why you can't get pregnant again. Most women are exhausted in the first couple of years after having a new baby. The birth followed by breastfeeding, sleepless nights and then toddler tantrums are enough to turn off anybody's natural desire for lovemaking.
You may want to ask you doctor or qualified herbalist about taking Ginkgo Biloba which is reputed to increase sexual desire. Another one to try which will help reduce stress and improve energy levels is Siberian Ginseng.
But please go to a reputable provider and don't overdo it on these extra vitamins and minerals. Moreover, check out Lisa Olsen Pregnancy Miracle book review to cope up with secondary infertility.