Just to be clear, I am talking mostly about my sister in law who has been a friend of mine for roughly three years or so (as i didn't meet her right away). Basically my husband, as well as her own, has told me that she is a pathological liar. Her husband has even told mine that those words came straight from her mother's lips. I like to think the best in people, but even when i first started talking to her i noticed many "small lies". Such as when i told her how i was in ballet for 8.5 years before i broke my foot (true story when i was a child from age 6 to age 14). then she decided to tell me that she was in ballet on point as well and i could tell by looking at her feet. let me be clear for all of those who have never seen a ballerina's feet after being on point or been on point yourself (as i have for two years). You have many blisters. even when they heal after so many times having these blisters, you scar. her feet were fine, not even a scratch. i tried to let this go, and i have.
More of these followed, but i ignored them, knowing that they were lies and confirmed lies by her husband when i confronted him. But the most recent one (and the reason i am posting) has me in for a loop. time for some more backstory...
My husband and his four brothers (her husband included) were in the navy when they were young. She decided she wanted hers home and called the navy to say she was diagnosed with uterine cancer. He flew home immediately and had her seen by a doctor. There was, nor has ever been cancer. She has since got her uterus removed.
Back to present...I am roughly 16 weeks pregnant and I have had a small fall at a friends house and thought nothing of it as i caught myself on the freezer chest. I woke up to spotting and cramping so i called my grandmother to take me in. (mind you i hate hospitals...) They took blood, a urine test, and of course gave me an ultrasound to see how the baby was doing. She was bouncing around happily (confirmed she at visit) and i asked if everything was alright. the nurse said she can't give news, good or bad.
They gave me a saline bag to help stop cramping and had me lay there waiting for my results. The doctor came back and said the blood tests came out fine, but I have a small "breach" in my placenta and i was to take it easy. No sex, no tampons, nothing up there basically. Also no heavy lifting (over five pounds or so). Naturally i called my sister in law who has been a good friend to me over the years with the more serious stuff. She was supportive and even offered to come beat my husband if he didn't help me out around the house.
but about two days later she spouts out of no where, I think my cancer is coming back. I immediately remembered my husband telling me the navy story. She never had cancer rang in my head. The timing of this was also fishy as well... then there was the fact that her uterus was taken out to begin with. and now she is saying something about a hernia acting up? don't those heal after so long?
Needless to say being family i can't just tell her to bug off, so I turn to you... how do you deal with someone who lives so close to you that does things like this. (mind you last time we cut her and her husband out of our lives for a time, they called CPS stating that we were treating our children like dogs, ect.) (they were never taken away though :) but needless to say, that isn't an option. I won't put my family at risk because of her acting like this.
Thanks for the help,
kitty