My spouse of 19 yrs. We had been intimate and then he fell asleep. I started to arouse him and went to unbelt his pants and he pushed me away. I felt as if he was upset with me. He said it was just cause he was sleeping? ? But things have been a bit unstable where he just disappears for a week at a time and won't call or anything. ( that all started when his father passed away earlier this year ) Feeling like he is shutting me out and not sure how to feel about what happened in the bedroom.