What is the biggest deterrent to your kids using drugs and alcohol? You.
You are a powerful influence in your child's daily life. Talking to your kids, being available to your kids, and knowing what goes on in their lives are essential to helping your kids make good decisions—in all areas of their lives. Specifically, kids who learn from their parents or caregivers about the risks of drugs are less likely to use drugs and alcohol. Here are some tips for raising drug-free kids:
Kids who feel close and connected with their parents are least likely to engage in risky behaviors. The more involved you are in your children's lives, the more valued they'll feel. They will also be more likely to share their thoughts with you. Here are some ways to be involved:
Sometimes it's tough to get kids to talk to you, but it's worth the effort. Talk about fun stuff—school, friends, sports, music, clothes, TV shows, whatever your kids are interested in—as well as more serious issues. The more you communicate, the more at ease your child will be with discussing drugs and other sensitive issues. If your kids don't respond to your communication at first, don't give up. Keep trying. Even if they don't have deep conversations with you, at least they'll know that they can. And at some point, they will.
Here are some communication tips:
Be a role model—the person you want your kid to be. This is the strongest anti-drug message there is. Be a living, day-to-day example of your value system. Show the compassion, honesty, generosity, and openness you want your child to have.
Know that there is no such thing as "do as I say, not as I do" when it comes to drugs. If you take drugs or have a problem with alcohol, seek professional help. Also, look at your behaviors regarding alcohol and drugs; for example, if you laugh when someone in a movie is drunk or stoned, you may be sending a message that drinking and using drugs is funny and not the serious matter that it is.
Although kids are often clamoring for independence, they still crave structure and guidance. They want you to show them you care enough to set limits. Consider the following tips:
Kids are very encouraged by their parents' approval and praise. Reward good behavior consistently and immediately. Expressions of love, appreciation, and thanks go a long way. Even kids who think themselves too old for hugs will appreciate a pat on the back or a special treat. Remember to:
Affection and respect—making your child feel good about him or herself—will reinforce good (and change bad) behavior far more successfully than embarrassment or uneasiness.
Resources
Partnership for a Drug-Free America
http://www.drugfreeamerica.org/
The Substance Abuse and Mental
Health Services Administration
http://www.samhsa.gov/
National Institute on Drug Abuse
http://www.drugabuse.gov/
Source
23 tips to keep in mind and put to use. Partnership for a Drug-Free America.
Available at:
http://www.drugfreeamerica.org/Templates/
Accessed September 17, 2003.
Last reviewed September 2003 by Richard Glickman-Simon, MD
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