Sexual needs and desires evolve as much as women themselves, but change is not always bad.
Whether women are 30 or 60 years old, if they have a desire to rekindle a sexual romance founder of Women’s Sexual Health Foundation Lisa Martinez says go for it.
Reaching 60 years old was once looked upon as over the hill. However, with a combination of communication and desire, couples can enjoy sex at any age.
As Martinez say, “The first step is to rekindle the relationship.” She says scheduling a date night to solely talk and get to know one another again is highly important.
During date night, couples needs to communicate and decide what is right for them.
While it is entirely acceptable and normal to desire a sexual relationship, if a couple chooses not to engage in sexual activities this is also normal, says Martinez.
Once a line of communication has opened Martinez suggests “being open to what the partner is interested in and being open to suggestions.”
Exploring a new position or location can enhance a sexual connection. As she says, small trips are a good way to increase communication and discover a new place together.
However, if one has the desire, but is holding back, find out the cause of the roadblock.
“Don’t let cultural myths hold you back,” says Martinez, “Absolutely go head and have intimacy.”
Additionally she says, if someone is refraining from sex because she thinks people in their sixties and above are not engaging in this activity, this isn’t true. So don’t let it stop you from enjoying your own and your partner’s body.
However, the most important step is to consult with a doctor if a medical condition is the reason for avoiding or not enjoying sex.
“The incidence of sexual dysfunction increases with age for both men and women,” says the American Psychological Association.
However, one of the most common medical reasons for putting off sex is vaginal dryness.
“You’re not going to have sex if it’s painful,” says Martinez.
She suggests trying over-the-counter lubricants and not just one, but multiple brands. “It’s not unusually to hear that a lubricant was unaffected, so try two or three.”
Sex over 60 is not for everyone, but it is acceptable and normal if the desire is present. As Martinez says, “Don’t think because you’re over 60 it’s over.”