The liquid spray may be female ejaculation. When your partner penetrates your vagina, it may trigger fluid that comes from the urethra or glands around your urethra. Don’t worry. More than half of women will have some fluid expelled with orgasm and 6% say that they regularly ejaculate in a forceful manner like you do. Female ejaculation is not always related to orgasm. Some women report a little, others will ”soak the bed.”
The fluid has been analyzed in Dr. Beverly Whipple’s laboratory and published as fluid that looks like watered down fat free milk, chemically different from urine. Although some report that it can be mixed with urine and it sounds like yours is if it increases that much after drinking coffee. You can read about her research and female ejaculate at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation
You can see a urologist but if they didn’t find anything before and it only happens with penetration, I don’t know that you would want any “treatment”. Your urologist may recommend that you catheterize yourself after you have gone to the bathroom to get rid of all of the urine. Is it worth the trouble? You may also want to check with your gynecologist to rule out vaginal infections using cultures and a wet prep but it still sounds like female ejaculation to me.
The bigger issue is how you feel about expelling extra fluid. When women do not know how common and “normal” it is, they may feel bad like you do. You may be embarrassed and self-conscience and that is causing the difficulty you have achieving orgasm with a partner. You did not say that your partner has shown any displeasure in pleasing you, so it sounds like you are imposing this upon yourself. Besides, many men find it very sexy to have their partner ejaculate. Hopefully understanding that this is a part of your sexual power you can embrace it.
Don’t feel guilty about the time it takes to orgasm. Women don’t have a sex switch that you can just turn on and off. We all take time to ‘transition” as I like to call it. Maybe spend more time before sex, even alone, to “think sexy thoughts” which will rev your body up. If the vibrator works, incorporate it into your sex play with your partner. If you still have trouble after educating and accepting your sexy self, a sex therapist may help.
Dr Deb www.drdebraines.com
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The liquid spray may be female ejaculation. When your partner penetrates your vagina, it may trigger fluid that comes from the urethra or glands around your urethra. Don’t worry. More than half of women will have some fluid expelled with orgasm and 6% say that they regularly ejaculate in a forceful manner like you do. Female ejaculation is not always related to orgasm. Some women report a little, others will ”soak the bed.”
The fluid has been analyzed in Dr. Beverly Whipple’s laboratory and published as fluid that looks like watered down fat free milk, chemically different from urine. Although some report that it can be mixed with urine and it sounds like yours is if it increases that much after drinking coffee. You can read about her research and female ejaculate at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculation
You can see a urologist but if they didn’t find anything before and it only happens with penetration, I don’t know that you would want any “treatment”. Your urologist may recommend that you catheterize yourself after you have gone to the bathroom to get rid of all of the urine. Is it worth the trouble? You may also want to check with your gynecologist to rule out vaginal infections using cultures and a wet prep but it still sounds like female ejaculation to me.
The bigger issue is how you feel about expelling extra fluid. When women do not know how common and “normal” it is, they may feel bad like you do. You may be embarrassed and self-conscience and that is causing the difficulty you have achieving orgasm with a partner. You did not say that your partner has shown any displeasure in pleasing you, so it sounds like you are imposing this upon yourself. Besides, many men find it very sexy to have their partner ejaculate. Hopefully understanding that this is a part of your sexual power you can embrace it.
Don’t feel guilty about the time it takes to orgasm. Women don’t have a sex switch that you can just turn on and off. We all take time to ‘transition” as I like to call it. Maybe spend more time before sex, even alone, to “think sexy thoughts” which will rev your body up. If the vibrator works, incorporate it into your sex play with your partner. If you still have trouble after educating and accepting your sexy self, a sex therapist may help.
July 25, 2008 - 1:42pmDr Deb
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